Are You Ashamed of Your Sexual Fantasies?

One of the most important keys to unleashing your sensual and erotic self is loosening your mental reins.

​All our opinions, judgments, assumptions, and moral codes imprison our free, wild, and raw space of sexual imagination. Your breathtaking sexual potential blossoms succulently on the evergreen fertile soil of possibilities, limitlessness, and untamed fantasies.

It is up to you to decide how and whether or not to act physically upon your fantasies. But the most essential moment here is a possibility, or even better, possibilities.

The sexual energy from your imagination should have the freedom to run like a wild horse. That fire is supposed to burn and dance like a shameless, insatiable pagan deep in the darkest and thickest jungle.

But people are often ashamed of their fantasies. Be it because of earlier sexual traumas or as a result of certain restrictions and taboos from society, family, or religion, which usually lead to suppressing and ignoring one’s fantasies.

It is a well-known fact that whenever we suppress our sexual desires or feelings, they will always come back to us, and sadly enough, in an uglier way. Because nothing really vanishes from our heads, it just travels back and reigns in your subconsciousness. Staying there “lost and forgotten”, your sexual impulses and fantasies get even more powerful, and you might start feeling more unsettled and worried because of it.

The solution here is to “pull them out of this dark closet” and acknowledge them. By doing so, we explore their sexual potency, and we can get our decision-making power back by finding a way to actually make them “alive” or “conscious”.

Yes, some fantasies might push our boundaries or even scare us. You don’t have to act on all your sexual fantasies in real life.

But you can use it as a way of exploring your sexual and sensual selves better, getting more intimate with your partner, and increasing your libido and overall pleasure. You can play out your fantasies with yourself (during the self-pleasuring time) or with a partner, but prior to that, make sure that this is a safe environment for you and, in the case of trauma, that both of you are on the same page in terms of the limits and boundaries.

Another way to approach and free your sexual fantasies is to write them down. Don’t censor yourself. If you are in a trusting relationship with your partner, you can even share it with them. Who knows, perhaps your partner has similar fantasies and was dreaming about this exact moment. Role-playing can be a very powerful way to spice up your intimate relationships and reveal some new and exciting sides to you and your partner.

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