How to Finally Let Go Of Frustration and Be Here Now

Frustration is a natural part of life and something that we all experience. Some of us feel frustrated from time to time, while many of us walk around surrounded by frustration. It isn’t just an inconvenience or irritation that pops up, but it can have a significant impact on your life. It leads to additional stress, anxiety, depression, and can ultimately impact your health. If you want to lead a happy, healthy, and fulfilled life, you need to learn how to let go of frustrations and remove them from your life.

When you allow frustrations to overtake your life, it steals your presence. It takes you out of the moment and can impact your relationships.

If you are experiencing frustration, you are most likely spending your time (mentally) in the future. This means you are spending your time worrying about things that have not happened yet, or perhaps things that can not be changed. No matter what the frustration you feel stems from, there is one common denominator, and that is, “I’m not here.” All frustration stems from moments that you are not currently experiencing. When you think about the consequences of the future, you are not present, and it causes frustration.

The frustration that I am talking about is a layer of agitation that follows you like a layer that has settled in. This is the kind of frustration that is always there, even when you have moments when you can escape, it always seems to loom over you. There have most likely been times when you’ve been happy, having a great day, and suddenly, you’re triggered… and now you’re frustrated, or the initial frustration never leaves you.

Why is that? What is going on, and why is it following you?

Frustration follows us because we make it a habit. The frustration we feel has become a habitual thought pattern that plagues us every day.

So. how do you get rid of frustration and banish it from your life?

Have you noticed that your frustrations come in patterns? When you feel frustration, it often comes from an external source called triggers, and by learning what your triggers, you can learn how to avoid them or solve them before they happen.

By learning your triggers, you can more easily manage your frustrations and remove them from your life.

Understand, you are going to go through different emotional states and triggers, but it about how you push through your different triggers and resolve them at the moment that determines how you deal with frustration.

Getting over your frustrations isn’t easy, but it is possible, and the first step is to gain awareness around frustration.

Why are you experiencing it? Was it set off by one of your triggers? Were you thinking about something that may happen and not being present?

Recognize your triggers so you can manage your frustration and begin working on it the moment it sets in.

And, once you are aware of your frustrations, and your triggers, you will no longer be stuck.

And that brings me to my next point. As I mentioned, most of our frustrations come from not being present and living in the future. We spend too much time worrying about things that have yet to happen.

When you are feeling frustrated, and have this cloud of frustration that seems to follow you throughout your day, remember to just be here.

This can be a real challenge for some.

I know this because if it wasn’t challenging, we would already be doing it, and we wouldn’t have the frustrations.

The key is to gain awareness and practice being in the moment. You may never completely get over frustrations, worries, or anxieties, but you should strive to make progress and do the best you can.

The reason it is so hard to let go of frustration and be present is because of our ego. Our ego is always looking for competition and chaos, but if you use the present to attack your ego and stay focused, you can actually be happy and let go of frustration.

The final thing I have to add is to practice gratitude and recognize the things you are grateful for every day.

Instead of worrying about the future, be grateful for what you have in the present. When you can focus on what you are grateful for, you are focused on the present.

This is an excellent habit of getting into when you are feeling frustrated and during your morning routine. Take the time and make a list of three to five things you are grateful for every day.

Now, take this new awareness into your reality and watch what becomes of your life. We are so quick to want to get into the future that it creates frustration and agitation at the moment, and we become addicted to it.

Focus on the now — this is the most beautiful thing that is given to us. Every new moment that you have is a new gift because you don’t know what tomorrow has in store for you. This moment, the breathe that you’re taking right now… that is a gift.

Take that awareness and gratitude into today and begin to create new programming for yourself. Create a new habitual way of thinking that only exists in the now.

If we can learn how to create those habitual thoughts that want to spend so much time in the future or even the past and cause frustration in our lives, then we can also create habitual thoughts that exist in the now.

Take these lessons and apply them to your life, starting today.

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