The beauty is confidence

Have You ever been thinking about what beauty is? If anyone would ask You what beauty is, would You be able to answer? Beauty is something what people are talking a lot but in different way. For me, beauty is confidence.

How people define beauty?

Perception of beauty changes not even every decade but every day. What is beautiful today can be no longer tomorrow. But let‘s narrow the topic. How do You see beautiful woman? I am sure that everyone reading it has his own curly thoughts about pretty woman. Not the movie of course. My idea is to show that every woman is beautiful in her own unique way just …doesn‘t know it yet.

Do I feel beautiful?

Let‘s travel in time and remember our childhood. I cannot remember every moment from my childhood, of course , it would be strange. The best moments I can still feel are with my father saying how beautiful and beloved I am. His big eyes looking straight at me. Me running around and waiting for him to grab me and give me bear hug. Even if I was not sure what I were doing I was confident about every step I make. Why? Because I knew that if I fail there still will be someone to say „Don‘t give up, one day You will show them who is the best“.

What happened next? Let‘s skip wonderful childhood and go to teenager‘s life. Every girl is waiting the moment she turns from ugly duckling to beautiful swan. That wasn‘t happening for me at all.. I still can remember those days in school when I would hide somewhere and cry when no one can see. Could You call Your classmates Your friends? Me — never. Still can hear that evil laugh behind me and thinking what happens next? Chewing gum in my long hair, disgusting pictures in my notebook, even song remakes in order to hurt me.. how can children be so cruel? To be more precise, not children, girls.. yes, right, girls.. I don‘t even know why they were doing it. Of course, I have never asked, but should I? The only thing what kept me motivated was me, myself. There was a lack of confidence but anyway I knew that I could do Maths or Chemistry better than all those mean girls.

How did I look like when I was teenager? I have been changing as chameleon in order people would notice me. How crazy it is, You are doing so much in order people like You? Do You really need it? Well of course society nowadays is categorical. If You think pink hair is better than black, it doesn‘t mean everyone thinks so. You dye You hair pink and post some pictures in order to receive feedback and see if it was good idea. Why? If You feel comfortable with that pink hair, does it really care what anyone thinks about it? Well.. at school I was that girl with pink hair, figuratively.. I tried so hard in exchange of people‘s attention. What a waste of time.. You won‘t feel confident or beautiful if someone says so unless You believe You are beautiful and confident.

Today

How do I feel today? I don‘t care what people think and say. Anyway thoughts and words cost nothing unless You can see person‘s behavior. I feel confident. Confident about myself. My thoughts, words, doings. I get up every morning and look into the mirror. Do I like what I see? If not, I can always fix it. With smile. With little shaky shaky by the mirror. If I still don‘t like those dark circles and bags under eyes a little makeup can save the day.

I have never been an art person. Only dancing inspired me. I had no idea what makeup is till my final exams in school, I guess.. I cannot remember the exact time I realized makeup is what You make it of it. It is a choice. You can put only mascara or lipstick and feel satisfied about what You see. What I want to say that every woman is beautiful. Why? Why not. When You‘re comfortable in Your own skin .. You‘re beautiful. Confidence is the best makeup You could ever wear.

You should never ever ask Yourself „Am I beautiful?“. You should say Yourself „I am beautiful!“. That‘s where confidence comes from. If You don‘t feel beautiful today nobody cares about it. Nobody cares if You feel sad today. Nobody cares if You are crying. You have to show everybody how amazing You are. You need to put some efforts. Anything pleasant comes easily.

To put in a shell every my mind I had put here it doesn‘t matter how old You are, if You are rich or poor, short or high, You have to be confident about who You are. About Your identity. Your everyday life. Your thoughts. Your doings. Your eyes color. Just to be confident about Yourself. If You realize it — You will be unstoppable.

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